Before I officially begin this post, let me explain what has been going on in HH world. I am personally taking the time to revamp this site as well as working on my personal site: HandsomeHansel.com. I have also become a regular contributor to RomanceUniversity.org which was recently named by Writer’s Digest as one of the top 100 websites for writers.
For those who have been salivating for the sixth installment of Quinn & Sabrina’s “The Night She Had Been Waiting For” *WIP*, I assure you I am heartily executing chapter after chapter in the hopes of having their complete story released via e-book within the next 60 days. Side note…when I hit 300 likes on my Dance Of Romance FaceBook page I will post Chapter 6! (I have had over 1500 requests for Chapter 6! Thank You Romancers!)
Not only Quinn & Sabrina, but I am also working on “I Will Love You For The Rest Of My Lie” as well as Davie’s story. Davie’s story is one with which I have no idea where it is going but I know I can’t wait to get there. He holds a special place in my heart and I can’t wait for him to find his Soul-Needle.
I chose a short while back to turn my life on its head and do what everyone told me I was meant to do and what I felt in my heart was calling me to do… become a full-fledged writer and published author. I had no idea how all-consuming that world was until I got here. So, to my 42,000 and rising Fans, Followers, and Friends out there who have been patient, understanding, and loyal…I say “Thank You” from the bottom of my soul. I promise to not disappoint.
Stay tuned, closely. Things are about to get VERY interesting. In the meantime, I have something I need to get off my chest so, here goes!
I am and always will be, a Romantic. I believe in the Happily-Ever-After. I believe in genuinely being over the moon with someone for decades on end. I also believe with the soul of my core, that in order for those things to happen there MUST be transparency in the relationship. It simply won’t work otherwise.
Lo and behold…my Sunday paper arrives and when I hit the “Life” section, there on the front page is an article devoted to a website that provides fake girlfriends for men. I read through the article and, quite frankly, couldn’t get my head wrapped around the concept.
In case you haven’t heard of it, let me catch you up to speed.
There is an online site (which shall remain nameless until I settle on a lawyer that doesn’t snort when I tell him what I do.) which, for $250 a month will rent you a fake girlfriend that you’ll never meet. This girlfriend will communicate with you across the social media platforms you choose as well as send you a few texts during the month and even leave voice-mail messages you can conveniently play over speaker phone for others to hear.
While the website gives a few instances with which this makes sense for the average dude, they admit that primarily it is used to make an ex jealous.
I don’t know about you but I don’t keep in contact with exes. There is no need to. So I guess the idea of hiring a fake girlfriend to make an ex jealous is lost on me. Maybe it’s my age, maybe it’s my life experiences, perhaps it’s because I feel games of the heart played after the demise of a relationship never declare a winner. I have learned there is an upcoming generation that is all about themselves so maybe that is a part of it. Because I couldn’t quite get it, I read the article again… and then again.
It turns out that $250 per month was their “basic” package. I shudder to think what chaos could ensue with the purchase of upgrades but the article did mention that you never ever meet your fake girlfriend. They will set up a fake FaceBook page, Twitter account, etc and you can even change your relationship status to reflect that you are in a relationship with an apparition. I find it sad, really, to have to pay a website $250 a month to prove you’re a loser.
What have we as men become?
I understand the need to get some sort of emotional revenge after a bitter breakup, it’s human nature, but actually signing up to a website which provides a pseudo female companion in order to, what? Make your ex jealous?
As a meat-eating, whisky drinking, ‘As you wish’ replying man, let me paint a few scenarios for you as I see them:
1. He breaks up with her and feels the need to prove he’s moved on.
My take…he’s not over her and should have never broken up. Plus…he’s about 10 years old mentally and emotionally. (My apologies to all the 10 year old boys out there.)
2. They decide mutually that it isn’t working for them and it only makes sense to go their separate ways.
In this case the guy is the epitome of a narcissist with a heavy helping of ego. He’s just being a jackass and I am pretty sure 99.9% of women would see through it.
3. She breaks up with him.
At this point it’s obviously much deserved. And he knows it.
So, in a juvenile attempt to win her back, he “johns” himself to Madam Phantom. Hell, at $250 a month minimum to send 10 texts per month and communicate on FB, I’LL do it!
This is emotional, revengeful prostitution for the modern age.
I want to be there when the guy stutters with his answer when his friends and family asks when they can meet her.
I want to be there when he’s signing the invoice sent to him and applying payment, just so I can ask him: “What the hell are you thinking?!”
I want to be there when he gives excuse after excuse as to why she has never been seen by ANYBODY.
Don’t think less of me because I want to see the crash. After-all, I wasn’t the one driving in the wrong lane to begin with. I just feel the need to experience it in the hopes of understanding. I am a writer after all. Therefore I am plagued with unsolicited thoughts I have to deal with on a constant basis.
Most men have become pussified. (Not a word I favor at all but one which works here.)
Women want a Man and men want a Woman. True to the core, accessible, transparent.
Why is it that games are played at all?
When I read the article, I could read between the lines and hear what wasn’t mentioned: Men are pathetic, men are to be made fun of, men are losers. Dammit guys! Stand up! If you don’t think for a second that your ex and her friends aren’t on to you then you deserve what’s coming to you.
Let’s take just a second and give the process the benefit of the doubt and assume it does work in making his ex jealous enough to want to come back to him. For whatever reason, his ex can’t stand the idea of him moving on and begins texting/calling him in an effort to win him back. A few weeks go by and eventually she forces his hand by telling him to cut off all communication with the “other woman” so that they can move forward. I guess I see him sending a text to his fake girlfriend that goes something like this:
“I hate to do this but we have to break up. I am getting back together with my ex but I wanted you to know that what we had was special and I’ll never forget you. Hang in there as I’m sure you will eventually find the one you were meant to be with as well.
Ps: Since the month isn’t completely up, can you prorate my last payment and refund the difference back? Thanks.”
Now what? He’s broken up with his fake girlfriend and gotten back with his ex. The deception worked! Good for him, right?
Now he has to answer the inevitable questions that will come from his ex: “How did you meet?”, “What was her name?”, “Is she pretty?”, etc, etc. And with each question he answers he’s digging himself a bigger hole. All he has really achieved is getting back into a relationship with even more lies and deceptions than before.
Of course there is always a chance that his ex will eventually find out that he hired a fake girlfriend. What then? Will she feel flattered he went to juvenile lengths to win her back or will she see him in a new light radiating pathetic beams?
Help me out ladies. Help me to understand what this looks like from a female perspective. Leave your comments below as I’m sure the men who visit here on occasion need to learn what a woman REALLY want when it comes to transparency and honesty in a relationship.